Bunny goes on a date.

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I went on a date last night. This may not sound like something out of the ordinary for a 20something year old, but I’m a little weird.

For the majority of my young adulthood, I was with the same person; now that that is no longer the case, one of my friends has been urging me to get back out there and meet new people.

Dating scares me. It terrifies me, actually. I feel that men treat women like they are easily disposable. Especially in a dating app world where you can easily swipe left (or right?) and find a new person. It’s weird. I know it works for a lot of people, but I don’t know, it’s just not for me. I met my date through one of my friends. Anytime we’ve hung out, has been with a group of people, last night was the first time him and I spent alone.

We went to see a movie, he didn’t do anything weird to make me feel uncomfortable, I was happy that he was very courteous and respectful the entire night. After the movie, he suggested we grab some food, so we went to a cool little bar overlooking the ocean. We had great conversation, talked about our jobs, our friends, our childhood, weird things we like to eat, etc. He told me he loved the way my perfume smelled and told me how pretty I looked. Even after the bar closed, we sat outside talking for another couple of hours.

On paper (or in this case, the notes app on my phone) this sounds like a successful date! And I guess it was, except, I felt nothing. I didn’t feel smitten or eager to see him again even though he asked when he’d be seeing me again. I had a great time and was happy to be there, but I would have been just as happy watching Harry Potter in my bed by myself.

One of the reasons I started this blog was to hopefully learn things about myself by writing about my experiences. As of this moment, I don’t think I’m ready to date just yet. There was nothing wrong with the guy, he is actually really sweet and funny, but there was definitely no spark there, and you need a spark. I feel that I still have a lot of learning and growing to do. As I mentioned in my first blog, I will continue dating myself for the time being.🐰

I know I’m probably not the only one who feels this way, when did you feel ready? What does being ready even mean?

8 thoughts on “Bunny goes on a date.

  1. I met my husband when I was 29. I had been very disappointed with men before him so I didn’t date anyone for a whole year. And then when I met him I knew he was the one and we were both ready to start a serious relationship. You are so young you have plenty of time dear. I definitely think that you should enjoy life, go out with friends and not look for anything serious just yet. The love of your life will arrive when he is ready and you will be as well. Thank you for sharing your experience 🙂

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    1. Thank you for your kind words Elodie! I definitely want to focus on myself for a while, I know the right person will come along when I least expect it. 🙂

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  2. I think it is really awesome actually that you’re open and honest with yourself about not being at a point where you want to date. I see a lot of people, particularly 20 something’s like us, forcing themselves to date because it is “normal”. I think it’s fantastic that instead of wasting your own time and unintentionally leading anyone on, you’re taking care of yourself first! Maybe you can be friends with the gentleman you went out with still as it sounds like you guys hit it off! Some relationships are just not the romantic type. 🙂 Kudos for giving it a good, honest chance and for being real with yourself about your own feelings! It’s inspiring and admirable in my opinion.

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    1. Thank you! You have no idea how happy your comment’s made me! I definitely agree with you, a lot of people force themselves to date and then end up heartbroken and/or disappointed. Again, thank you for your kind words! 🙂

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